Quotes that say what I cannot

This page is a collection of quotes that I have found (and will continuing adding to). It replaces my Gems of Hope page and is now sorted into category so it is much easier to find what you are looking for. I have often found that sometimes quotes and other authors say what I cannot. This page expresses that. (new quotes are at the top of each of their respected categories)

A Journey
Eating Disorders
Society’s Take
The Future/Determination
Random Gems


  • She let go.

    She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

    She let go of the fear.

    She let go of the judgments.

    She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

    She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

    She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.

    Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

    She didn’t ask anyone for advice.

    She didn’t read a book on how to let go.

    She didn’t search the scriptures.

    She just let go.

    She let go of all of the memories that held her back.

    She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

    She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

    She didn’t promise to let go.

    She didn’t journal about it.

    She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.

    She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

    She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.

    She just let go.

    She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.

    She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

    She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

    She didn’t call the prayer line.

    She didn’t utter one word.

    She just let go.

    No one was around when it happened.

    There was no applause or congratulations.

    No one thanked her or praised her.

    No one noticed a thing.

    Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

    There was no effort.

    There was no struggle.

    It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.

    It was what it was, and it is just that.

    In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

    A small smile came over her face.

    A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…

    ~ Rev. Safire Rose

    “Do you think miners stand around all day talking about how hard it is to mine for coal? They do not. They simply dig.” – Cheryl Stayed

    “That place of true healing is a fierce place. It’s a giant place. It’s a place of monstrous beauty and endless dark and glimmering light. And you have to work really, really, really fucking hard to get there, but you can do it” – Cheryl Stayed

    …it’s so hard to live in my intense and jumpy and pounding heart and swimming head without anything to take that edge off? Do you know that I take lots of medication to keep me from flirting too closely to that edge? And even with the meds, that edge is where I have to live. Knowing it’s there, but keeping my back turned to it. No turning towards it. No peeking over. No dangling my toes off it. The edge, for me, means death. Not for just my body anymore but for a soul and a family and a blog and a voice and a revolution. God gave me a lot so I’d have a lot to throw away. So it’d all be too hard to throw away, maybe. I don’t know why the Universe did that for me. I don’t know why most of us can’t keep ourselves from jumping over that edge. Even with all we have to lose. The urge to jump is stronger than the urge to stay planted. I’ll stay planted. I know this. And still.

     I so miss the other side. – Glennon Doyle Melto

  • You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness. – Jonathan Safran Foer
  • “You silly little girl, you think you’ve survived so long that survival shouldn’t hurt anymore. You keep trying to turn your body bullet proof. You keep trying to turn your heart into a bomb shelter. You silly thing. You are soft and alive. You bruise and heal. Cherish it. It is what you are born to do.” – Clementine von Radic
  • People are trapped in history and history is trapped in them. – James Baldwin
  • There are times when you don’t know yourself. There are times when you don’t want to know yourself. There are times when you want to be what you have never allowed yourself to be before. – Aidan Chambers
  • Yes, terrible things happen, but sometimes those terrible things- they save you.  – Chuck Palahniuk
  • i will always be the person who went to the grocery store in cigarette-burned pajamas every day for five monthsi will always be the person who wanted to die and didn’ti will always be the person who lost twenty pounds
    in one month and i will always be the person who gained it backi will always be the person who decided, while crying
    in the passenger seat of your car, to be betteri will always be the person who paused when you first said “i love you”
    just to take the moment ini will always be the person who survived the unsurvivable i will always be the person who fought like hell for it – Joshua Espinoza
  • And then her heart changed, or at least she understood it; and the winter passed, and the sun shone upon her – J.R.R. Tolkien
  • There are years that ask questions, and years that answer – Zora Neale Hurston
  • Now at last they were beginning Chapter One of the Great Story no one on earth has ever read which goes on forever: in which every chapter is better than the one before – C.S. Lewis
  • …throw roses into the abyss and say: ‘here is my thanks to the monster who didn’t succeed in swallowing me alive. – Friedrich Nietzsche
  • If flowers can grow
    through blankets of melting snow,
    there is hope for me.- Daily Haiku on Love by Tyler Knotts Gregson
  • How many times have people used a pen or paintbrush because they couldn’t pull the trigger? – Virginia Woolf
  • As you recover, you will begin to let go of your attraction to chaos as you realize that there is excitement in just living your life in a healthy, realistic, peaceful way. Because your entire childhood may have been riddled with on crisis after another, you grew accustomed to this level of intensity. – The Right to Innocence by Beverly Engel
  • What strange beings we are! That sitting in hell at the bottom of the dark. We’re afraid of our own immortality – Rumi
  • I have lived on the lip of insanity, wanting to know reasons, knocking on a door. It opens. I’ve been knocking from the inside. – Rumi
  • To change, a person must face the dragon of his appetites with another dragon, the life-energy of the soul – Rumi
  • You know what’s sexy? Being a person who’s been through a life challenge, and comes out with insights, more depth, and a fiery passion to keep on moving forward, forward, forward! – Prince Harming Syndrome (notsalmon.com)
  • Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is a process. Working together is success. – Henry Ford
  • Even the smallest person can change the course of the future – JRR Tolkien

So he tasted the deep pain that is reserved only for the strong, just as he had tasted for a little while the deep happiness – F. Scott Fitzgerald

  • A book can teach you, a conversation can assure you, a poem can seduce you, a genius can inspire you but only you can save yourself. – Anthony Anaxagorou
  • Yet somehow he was not afraid of anything, was absolutely calm; perhaps because he had looked into the dark corner at least and knew. It was bad enough, what he saw there; but somehow not so bad as his long fear of it had been. He saw everything clearly now. He had a feeling that he had made the best of it, that he had lived the sort of life he was meant to live…- Willa Cather, ‘Paul’s Case’
  • you tilt your head back
    you breathe
    when your heart is broken you plant seeds in the cracks
    and you pray for rain
    and you teach your sons and daughters
    there are sharks in the water
    but the only way to survive
    is to breathe deep
    and dive – Andrea Gibson
  • The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise – Alden Nowlan
  • In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it – Mitch Albom
  • I think humans might be like butterflies; people die every day without many other people knowing about them, seeing their colors, hearing their stories… and when humans are broken, they’re like broken butterfly wings; suddenly there are so many beauties that are seen in different ways, so many thoughts and visions and possibilities that form, which couldn’t form when the person wasn’t broken! So it is not a very sad thing to be broken, after all! It’s during the times of being broken, that you have all the opportunities to become things unforgettable! Just like the broken butterfly wing that I found, which has given me so many thoughts, in so many ways, has shown me so many words, and imaginations! But butterflies need to know, that it doesn’t matter at all if the whole world saw their colors or not! But what matters is that they flew, they glided, they hovered, they saw, they felt, and they knew! And they loved the ones whom they flew with! And that is an existence worthwhile!  –  C. JoyBell C‎
  • Maybe it’s sad that these are now memories. And maybe it’s not sad. – Stephen Chbosky
  • So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I’m still trying to figure out how that could be. – Stephen Chbosky
  • Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before.  You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good. – Elizabeth Edwards

You are not meant for crawling, so don’t. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly. ― Rumi.

  • Have the courage to live. Anyone can die.
  • ‎As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.
    -Henry David Thoreau
  • That’s what excellent therapy does for you. I am in charge of my voice. I call the shots about when, where and what I speak about. – Donald O’Haene
  • A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it – Jean de La Fontaine
  • I expect they had lots of chances like us, of turning back, only they didn’t – Lord of the Rings

It’s must be exhausting to want to live this much – Catalina Ferro (Anxiety Group)

  • One ceases to recognize the significance of mountain peaks if they are not viewed occasionally from the deepest valleys. – Dr. Al Lorin
  • Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to myself. – Nathaniel Brand
  • Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes don’t see as well and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand  – The Velveteen Rabbit
  • Who am I? I am not a disease, nor my weight, nor even my family. I am not my job, or my things, or the house I live in. I am not the words used to describe me (quiet or boring or something else I haven’t thought of), the books I read, or the clothes I wear. I am not what you see, on the outside or what I say or even the things I do. It’s all illusory. I am, instead, this essence inside. I am the strength that gives me breath each day. I am the love i feel within. I am a light in the dark. I am a little piece of this universe. I am human. I am silence. I am hope burning. I am kindness. I am laughter. I am all of these things. I am. -Erica Orlof
  • Almost crumbling to the ground, she stopped. Looking at how far she had traveled and all it had taken to get there, she recognized her strength. The strengths she had inside of her, the strength she had gained along the way ~ her inner power. And so, she stood up. standing tall, she faced forward and continued on. — Unknown
  • Out of suffering has emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. – Kahil Gibran
  • Every positive change—every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness—involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception. – Dan Millman
  • She flies with her own wings
  • It doesn’t matter where you are or who you are. You can survive
  • ‎The best journeys answer questions, that in the beginning, you didn’t even think to ask. ~Yvon Chouinard
  • Our childhood had passed into history overnight. The transition was unnoticed by anyone but ourselves
  • If you aren’t unhappy sometimes you don’t know how to be happy Maeleline Le’Engle
  • Just like there’s always time for pain, there’s always time for healing. – Jennifer Brown
  • ‎I relish my life. It’s a life of which I’m fiercely protective. I have wrestled it back from madness, and madness cannot take it from me again. I will not throw it away. So what if it isn’t a normal life? It’s the one I have. It’s difficult, beautiful, painful, full of laughter… Whatever else it is, whatever else it brings – it’s mine.  -marya hornbacher (thank you AL for this one)
  • Of all the liars in the world sometimes the worst are our own fears. – Rudyard Kipling
  • When she cried, he would say, there is nothing wrong with crying. Your feelings tell you who you are. They tell what is important. Don’t ever be ashamed of them. – Terry Brooks
  • All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost. -J.R. Tolkien
  • And every tear that had to fall from my eyes, Everyday I wondered how I’d get through the night, Every change life has thrown me, I’m thankful for every break in my heart, I’m grateful for every scar, Some pages turned, some bridges burned, But there were lessons learned
  • Sometimes even to live is an act of courage. – Lucius Annaeus Seneca
  • Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. – Anonymous
  • Life is at it’s most painful when you’re changing the most. – Anonymous
  • About worrying: Don’t cry over tears that haven’t even started to form. – Anonymous
  • ‎We want more than just to survive. We want love. We want success. We want to be the best that we can be. So, we fight like hell to get those things. Anything else feels like death… – Grey’s Anatomy
  • Worry Does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength – Corrie ten Boom
  • We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot. – Eleanor Roosevelt (this quote held me together during my time at CFC)
  • You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give. – Elanor Roosevelt
  • Every time you fall in a hole, you build the skills to get yourself out, then kick some dirt in so its not so deep next time. Someday, the hole will fill, and you will no longer fall.
  • You can’t put a band-aid on every boo boo you made some just need time to heal

What is to give light must endure burning. – Viktor Franco

  • The baby rises to her feet, takes a step is overcome with triumph and joy – and falls flat on her face. It is a pattern for all that is to come. But learn from the bewildered baby. Lurch to your feet again. You’ll make the sofa in the end. – Pam Brown.
  • Every one has to experience pain but we can choose if we suffer or not. – unknown
  • It’s alright. I know it hurts but it’s because you’re growing. – Mary Lou (therapist at CFC)
  • Pain, you just have to ride it out, hope it goes away on its own hope the wound that caused it heals. There are no solutions, no easy answers, you just breath deep and wait for it to subside. Most of the pain can be managed but sometimes the pain you where you least expect it. Hits way below the belt and doesn’t let up. Pain, you just have to fight through, because the truth is you can’t outrun it and life always makes more – Grey’s Anatomy


  • I wish we did something crazy for treatment. I wish i could tell you:
    ‘Today they strapped wires to my arms and sent electricity through me, and I smelled smoke and heard a crackle in my ears, and orange and purple spots appeared in the center of my vision, and afterward I had to lie down with a hot water bottle pressed to the back of my neck while I trembled and shook for a couple of hours.’
    Because then you’d say:
    ‘That’s horrible! You were so brave! You’re working so hard to get better!’
    But that’s not what I can tell you.
    Instead, I have to say:
    ‘We had ice cream for afternoon snack.’
    And you’d say:
    ‘Mmmm! Ice cream!’
    You say:
    ‘I love ice cream!’
    There is nothing I can say to make you understand.

    — Clare B. Dunkle, Hope and Other Luxuries

  • “One of the biggest problems about recovery is the inconsistency of it.Some days, you are a superhero. You eat all of your meals, and still find beauty in the fullness of your stomach. However, the not-so-wonderful days are the deterrent. You wake up, and cannot find a thing appealing about yourself. When beauty is no longer the goal—you just want to not hate yourself.Then, you find yourself wishing you knew you were skinny when you were skinny. You hate that wish. It is the creepy uncle that no one likes who sits in the corner and stares at everyone at Thanksgiving. But you cannot help but think it.You were not skinny, you were dying. You were trying to be invisible; you were trying to shrink away from life. It got so severe that you just stopped functioning, didn’t you?You may not have known you were skinny,
    but you knew you were dying.”- Michelle K. Bad Days in Recovery
  • “It was so much more than simply deciding one day that I was done with it. But also, it was exactly that.” – Josie Tuttle
  • Sometimes relapse doesn’t seem like that much of a threat. But nobody is guaranteed to live through their next one. – Josie Tuttle
  • Part of recovery is about addressing painful things. If you ignore them, they become triggers – Elementary (TV Series)
  • I say ‘I’m fat’. He says ‘no you’re beautiful’. I wonder why I cannot be both. – Rachel Wiley
  • how will you the difficulties of being human, if you’re always flying off to blue perfection? – Rumi
  • wishing to be er
    my boys count their
    scars with pride
    twelve just on my left leg
    and crooked fingers are to covet
    i broke this one in 7th grade football
    but women and girls
    noses were cuter
    skin clearer
    eyes a deeper hue
    waists smaller
    legs thinner
    hair straighter, curlier, lighter, darker
    this desire to be er
    is not a god idea
    formed my inward parts
    and knitted me together
    when we stare ourselves down
    wishing to be er
    we are
    god – By Kendal Privette
  • The fact that you were essentially dead does not register until you begin to come alive. – Marya Hornbacher

You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot before the other, and God damn it, you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way. Elizabeth Taylor

  • Grown up? Me? I suppose I have. Killing things, and almost killing myself, must have changed me some, after all – Ellen Hopkins
  • How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart, you begin to understand, there is no going back? There are some things that time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep… that have taken hold.
    —The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King (movie)
  • No longer lend your strength to that which you wish to be free from. Life Uncommon, Jewel Song
  • We lusted after elusive perfection, seeking with an insatiable and hellish desire to be the best, the brightest, the prettiest, the wittiest, the smartest, the sexiest — all embodied in being the Thinnest — whatever the cost… But it’s time we recognized that chasing the extraordinary is what almost killed us in the first place. – Donna Shute

It’s not your fault that you developed an eating disorder or depression an addiction or whatever else is trying to steal your life away. But it is your responsibility to save yourself and you can. – Jossie Tuttle

  • When you consider yourself valuable you will take care of yourself in all ways that are necessary. — M. Scott Peck
  • You can’t be free if you don’t reach for help. You can’t love if you don’t be yourself – Natalie Grant.
  • it was a choice made out of fear, not logic. – Kristen Haguland (when discussing the first time she threw her lunch away)
  • We don’t know why we survived. We just have to grateful
  • That’s the common denominator among people I know who have recovered. They chose recovery, and they worked like hell for it, and they didn’t give up. – Myra Hornbacher
  • …because the trade-off is this: you let go of your eating disorder, and you get your life off – Myra Hornbacher
  • two years of your life weren’t lost because you made some amazing friends and grew stronger. We can’t change the past but we can make sure our future will be optimistic. – A.G. – a very, very wise young teenager
  • You believed in the Tooth Fairy once, and Santa. You believed that your parents weren’t people, they were parents, and regular-person rules didn’t apply to them. You believed your heart was shattered for good, and you’d never love again. But you learned, you grew, you changed, and your beliefs changed with you. It’s time to outgrow the belief that we are somehow inferior because we don’t look a certain way, wear certain things, live certain lives. It’s time to laugh it off when a magazine tells us we need to firm up and slim down, no matter how firm or slim we might already be. It’s time to focus on ourselves, as we are, instead of the selves that somebody else thinks we should be. Because the secret is out: There is nothing wrong with us. Not a single, solitary thing.
  • Being sick let’s you check out of life. Getting well means you have to check back in.  – Portia De Rossi

You have to do the work. You have to do the work now. I know what it is to not want to live, to wish that you’d die, to loose everything. I have been there. I am back now. As impossible as it felt eventually I came back and so can you but you have got to do the work. – Grey’s Anatomy 


  • It isn’t what I did. It isn’t what I asked for. It’s not who I am. It’s what happened to me. It’s like someone tattooed my entire body with my design. No one consulted me. No one asked me and now I’ll spend the rest of my life removing the tattoo. – Kate J. Tate
  • Never “give a man permission.” You shouldn’t have too. It should be mutual. Stop treating your body like currency – don’t pay anyone who doesn’t deserve it – “Things My Mother Didn’t Tell Me But Should Have”
  • You survived the abuse, you can survive the recovery.
  • The memory fades, and I’m left hanging on to the ghosts of his words. – Marie Lu
  • My story gets told in various ways: a romance, a dirty joke, a war, a vacancy. Divide up my forgetfulness to any number, it will go around. – Rumi
  • Whatever you break finds itself more intelligent for being broken. – Rumi
  • It hurts because it matters – John Green
  • If chained is where you have been, your arms will always bear marks of shackles. What you have to loose is your story, your own slant. You’ll look at the scars on your arms and see mere ugliness, or you’ll take great care to look away from them and see nothing. Either way, you have no words for the story of where you came from. – Barbra Kingsolver
  • One thing you who had secure or happy childhoods should understand about those of us who did not. We who control our feelings, who avoid conflicts at all costs, or seem to seek them. Who are hypersensitive, self-critical, compulsive, workaholic, and above all survivors. We are not that way from perversity, and we cannot just relax and let it go. We’ve learned to cope in ways you never had to. – Piers Anthony
  • The existence of forgetting has never been proved: we only know that some things do not come to our mind when we want them too. I have felt that odd whir of wings in my head. – Virgina Woolf
  • Damn you, spoilt creature; I shan’t make you love me any the more by giving myself away like this. – Vita Sackville-West
  • I don’t know if you’ve ever felt like that. That you wanted to sleep for a thousand years. Or just not exist. Or just not be aware that you do exist. Or something like that. I think wanting that is very morbid, but I want it when I get like this. That’s why I’m trying not to think. I just want it all to stop spinning. – Stephen Chbosky
  • It’s kind of like when you look at yourself in the mirror and you say your name. And it gets to a point where none of it seems real. Well, sometimes, I can do that, but I don’t need an hour in front of a mirror. It just happens very fast, and things start to slip away. And I just open my eyes, and I see nothing. And then I start to breathe really hard trying to see something, but I can’t. It doesn’t happen all the time, but when it does, it scares me. – Stephen Chbosky
  • Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering. – Paulo Coelho

You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself. Not because you’ve always made the right choices, but because you survived the bad ones. – Sandra Kring

  • A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.  – Ganhdi
  • No one ever told me that grief feels so much like fear – C.S. Lewis
  • ‎The reason death sticks so closely to life isn’t biological necessity – it’s envy. Life is so beautiful that death has fallen in love with it, a jealous, possessive love that grabs at what it can. – Life of Pi
  • Your room is not your prison, you are – Sylvia Plath
  • nor did she understand why her lack of memory seemed more like a wall than an empty space. ~ Deerskin, by Robin McKinley
  • Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain. – Kahlil Gibran
  • Everybody has a secret world inside of them. All of the people of the world. I mean everybody. No matter how dull and boring they are on the outside, inside them they all have unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds. Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands maybe. – Neil Gaiman

Your body is not a temple. Your body is the house you grew up in. How dare you try to burn it to the ground. You are bigger than this. You are bigger than this. – Sierra Demulder

  • We call one another survivors. We don’t often take the time to think about what that means. What it means is the people who are still here. What it means is that you faced down something that no one should ever have to. And that even this terrible thing was not enough to stop you. What it means is that you are incredibly strong, even in the moments when you don’t know that. What it means is that you are not drowning—there is a rope, a lifeline, and it will bring you back to the boat, and back to safety. What it means is that you are the rope. Grab on.
  • Numbing the pain for a while will only make it feel worse when you actually feel it – Albus Dumbledore (aka J.K. Rowling)
  • You’re not a bad person. You’re a good person who bad things have happened to. – Sirius Black (aka J.K. Rowling)
  • You might as well live – Dorthy Parker
  •  But she would have paid a still higher price if she had repressed her true exuberant self – The Witch of Portabella
  • But you’ve got to go through it to get to the end of it – The Hunger Games: Catching Fire
  • Why do you stay in prison, when the door is so wide open? – Jalal ad Din Rumi
  • He doesn’t know whether life is worth living because he lost his innocence – Mindy Lewis
  • Listen: to live is to be marked. To live is to change, to acquire the words of a story and that is the only celebration we mortals really know but know this: the person who did this to you is broken. Not you. – Sierra Demulder
  • Nothing was stolen from you. Your body is not a hand-me-down. – Sierra Demulder
  • …all the children I ever Wasn’t but was meant to be, Break open the roof, take wing, and I speak. I speak.-    Bring Down the Chandeliers – Hummingbird – Tara Hardy
  • I’m free – A Child Called It by Dave Peltzer

I don’t blame anyone else for what happened to me. But once you’ve had your life burn down it takes time to be a phoenix – Sharon Stone

  • You find a way, somehow, to get through the most horrible things, things you think would kill you. You find a way and you move through the days, one by one, in shock, in despair, but you move. The days pass, one after the other, and you go along with them — occasionally stunned, and not entirely relieved, to find that you are still alive. – The Year of Fog by Michelle Richmond
  • Survival is your strength not your shame. – Jaycee Duggard
  • For some, the past is a chain, each day a link, revealing backward to one ringbolt or another, in one dark place or another, and tomorrow is a slave to yesterday – Dean Kontz
  • ‎She thought about her life and how lost she’d felt for most of it. She thought about the way that all truths she’d been taught to consider valuable invariably conflicted with the world as it was actually lived. How could a person be so utterly lost, yet remain living?
  • The past can hurt. You can either run from it or learn from it. – The Lion King


  • If you have a friend who suffers, you have to help him. My dear friend, you are on safe ground. Everything is okay now. Why do you continue to suffer? Don’t go back to the past. It’s only a ghost; it’s unreal. And whenever we recognize that these are only movies and pictures, not reality, we are free. That is the practice of mindfulness. – Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over. – Gloria Naylor
  • Sam and Patrick looked at me. And I looked at them. And I think they knew. Not anything specific really. They just knew. And I think that’s all you can ever ask from a friend. – Stephen Chbosky
  • You just need to smash right through it cause you can’t go over it or under or past it
  • Please don’t spare my feelings at the expense of my soul –  M.L. from CFC
  • When we venture into that unfamiliar seas, we trust blindly in those who guide, us, believing that they know more than we do – The Witch of Portabella
  • Remember your goodbye group? People don’t cry voluntarily. – CS (Thank you for giving me this gift)

If a friend walked with you through an especially joyful, sorrowful or memorable time of life, you probably have some sacred history with that friend.

  • And still there are times when it just gets away from you. No matter how hard you fight it, you fall. And it’s scary as hell. Except there’s an upside to freefalling. It’s the chance you give your friends to catch you – Grey’s Anatomy


It came to me that every time I love a dog they take a piece of my heart with them, and every new dog who comes into my life gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are. –Anonymous

  • It’s just the most amazing thing to love a dog, isn’t it? It makes our relationships with people seem as boring as a bowl of oatmeal. – John Grogan
  • Like many other much-loved humans, they believed that they owned their dogs, instead of realizing that their dogs owned them. – Dodie Smith, 101 Dalmatians
  • Do animals have less fear because they live without words?


  • If you don’t understand mental illness, good. Good for you. You shouldn’t have to understand.
    If you don’t understand why some people can’t get out of bed in the morning, good. I hope you jump out of your bed every day ready to take the world by storm.
    If you don’t understand how someone could drag a blade across their skin, or bruise themselves, pick, probe, burn, then good. I hope you’re never that desperate to feel something.
    If you don’t understand what would drive a girl to keep starving herself despite everything she’s lost in the process, good. I hope you stay heavy and present and real.
    If you don’t understand what eating everything in your kitchen only to throw it all up solves, good. I hope you always remember that it solves nothing.
    If you don’t understand why he won’t just go to rehab or church or find someone who can help him, good. I hope you always remember you have somewhere to turn.
    If you don’t understand how she can put getting high above her own children, good. I hope you never fall in love with a substance that only kills you in return.
    If you don’t understand how someone can keep swallowing bottles of pills, tying knots in ropes, or standing at the tops of bridges, good. I hope you’re never that desperate for relief.
    If you don’t understand how people do it, good.
    You’re not supposed to.
    It’s all fucking sick.
    It’s all fucking mental.
    When you say your prayers tonight, thank God for ignorance.
    It’s healthy.- ” If You Don’t Understand” by Anonymous (if you find the author let me know)
  • Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, but stigma and bias shame us all. – President Bill Clinton
  • As a society, we encourage girls and women to be emotionally accessible, and in touch with their feelings; we say that it’s an innately feminine trait. We say it, that is, until they have feelings that make us uncomfortable, at which point we recast them as melodramatic harpies, shrieking banshees, and basket cases. — Tori Amos
  • The conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us and used to define and control us. – Ashley Judd


My soul is from elsewhere, I’m sure of that…I didn’t come here of my own accord and I can’t leave that way. Whoever brought me here will have to take me home – Rumi (one of the strongest arguments against suicide that I have ever read) 

  • “Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.” – C.S. Lewis
  • He’s not safe but he’s good – C.S. Lewis (referring to Aslan in the Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe)
  • Wrong will be right, when Aslan comes in sight,
    At the sound of his roar, sorrows will be no more,
    When he bares his teeth, winter meets its death,
    And when he shakes his mane, we shall have spring
    again.–from The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe
  • Some people think that God does not like to be bothered by our constant coming and asking. The way to trouble God is not to come at all. – D.L. Moody
  • Remember the deep root of your being, the presence of your lord. Give your life to the one who already owns your breath and your moments. -Rumi
  • Work in the invisible world at least as hard as you do in the visible – Rumi
  • Your have a hundred cynical fantasies about God. Make them ninety – nine! If you can’t pray a real prayer, pray hypocritically, full of doubt and dry mouthed. God Accepts counterfeit money as though it were real! – Rumi
  • Faith isn’t an epidural. It’s a midwife that stands next to me saying ‘Push. It’s supposed to hurt’. – Brene Brown
  • And you? When will you belong that long journey into yourself? – Rumi
  • No natural feelings are high or low, holy or unholy, in themselves. They are all holy when God’s hand is on the rein. They all go bad when they set up on their own and make themselves into false gods. – from The Great Divorce
  • To live by grace means to acknowledge my whole life story, the light side and the dark. In admitting my shadow side I learn who I am and what God’s grace means. – Brennan Manning
  • To be alive is to be broken. And to be broken is to stand in need of grace. – Brennan Manning, The Ragamuffin Gospel
  • The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference. – Elie Wiesel
  • It was here there at the bottom, that I discovered clear traces of grace. My desolation inexplicably gone way to comfort. I felt held and accepted and loved. It was only afterword as I thought about it, that I realized that what I had experienced was the grace of God. – Lewis Smedes
  • Despair, like hell, is where we experience the absence of God. However in the very place we feel must desolate, he can find us and when he does, we will know for sure he comes with Grace  Lewis Smedes

There is nothing she could do to gain God’s love because she had never lost it – Lewis Smedes

  • If you comprehend something, it is not God – St. Augustine
  • I just hear you cry, God, I just, I just want to be normal. and God says, No. Normal is not good enough, I have plans above and beyond for you.
  • We are settling for a Christianity that revolves around catering to ourselves when the central message of Christianity is actually about abandoning ourselves. ― David Platt , Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream (thank you Cassi for this thoughtful one)
  • Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God – Corrie ten Boom
  • Lord, I’m going to hold steady on to You and You’ve got to see me through. Harriet Tubman (a mantra from my time at CFC)
  • God, my God, I yelled for help and you put me together.  God, you pulled me out of the grave, gave me another chance at life when I was down and out. – Psalms 30:2-3
  • Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides.  You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors.  So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely.  Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in ay way.  If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father.  He loves to help. –   James 1: 2-5
  • Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you’re just coming out of one, or you’re getting ready to go into another one. The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character than your comfort; God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy. – C.S. Lewis
  • ‎Either you’ll have to kill Him or you’ll have to crown Him. The one thing you can’t do is say, What an interesting guy. -Tim Keller on Jesus From King’s Cross
  • God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world. – C.S. Lewis
  • He who has a why can endure any how. – Friedrich Nietzsche
  • The kingdom is not an exclusive, well trimmed suburb with snobbish rules about who can live there. No, it is for a larger homlier, less self-conscious caste of people who understand they are sinners because they have experienced the yaw and pitch of moral struggle. – Brennan Manning
  • Oh you’ll meet the Lord in the furnace; A long time before you meet Him in the sky – Rich Mullins

I know that God is good. I know that God does not lie. And I know he has given us the gift of our lives. Sometimes we wish he would have given us someone else’s life but he chose to give you life. Don’t despair of it. – Rich Mullins

  • Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings. (Psalm 61:1-4)
  • God, who foresaw your tribulation has specially armed you to go through it, not without pain, but without stain. – C.S. Lewis
  • I am glad that so much movement happens in the stillness
  • Every experience God gives us, every person He puts into our lives is the perfect preparation for a future that only He can see – Corrie ten Boom


  • “Oscar Wilde said that if you know what you want to be, then you inevitably become it – that is your punishment, but if you never know, then you can be anything. There is a truth to that. We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing – an actor, a writer – I am a person who does things – I write, I act – and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a noun.” – Stephen Fry
  • “Didn’t they realize that the only way to change things was to act?” – Tamora Pierce
  • let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love – Rumi
  • Keep walking, though there’s no place to get to. Don’t try to see through the distances. That’s not for human beings. Move within, but don’t move the way fear makes you move – Rumi

Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground. – Rumi

  • if all you can do is crawl, start crawling – Rumi
  • But don’t be satisfied with poems
  • And stories of how things have gone with others

Unfold your own myth without complicated explanation,

So everyone will understand the passage…

Your legs will get heavy

And tired. Then comes a moment

Of feeling the wings you’ve grown,

Lifting. – Rumi

  • I’m the one that’s got to die when it’s time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.― Jimi Hendrix, Jimi Hendrix – Axis: Bold as Love

Starting today, you’re not the kind of woman who settles for broken things or hangs on to damaged goods, be it a radio, a pair of shoes, or a relationship. Your life is not a yard sale. It’s time to get rid of all the broken stuff that you’ve been lugging around for days, months, and maybe even years, and make the bold decision to start looking for stuff that works. – Greg Behrendt

  • What I’m saying is I hope you come to find that which gives life a deep meaning for you. Something worth living for—maybe even worth dying for—something that energizes you, enthuses you, and enables you to keep moving ahead. – Sr. Ita Ford in a letter to her niece
  • The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you figure out why. – Mark Twain
  • So go find a frontier and go for it. Choose to do something important and different. Don’t be deterred by notions of luck, impossibility, or futility. Use your power to shape your own life and go and do new things.  – Peter Thiel
  • Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.

Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent.

Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.

Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.

Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.

The slogan, ‘Press on,’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. – Calvin Coodlige

  • There comes a time in a mans life where he has to go where he has to go  – if there are no doors or windows  – he walks through a wall.  – Bernard Malamud
  • For what it’s worth: it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again. – F.Scott Fitzgerald
  • Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to get where you wanna go – C.R. (Laureate)
  • Decide you want it more than you are afraid of it. – Bill Cosby
  • Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it. – Viktor Franco
  • I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be


  • You think your pain and heartbreak are unprecedented in the world, but then you read. – James Baldwin
  • Music is such a personal thing, such a lucky thing. When a song hits you, if it catches you, the stars have to be aligned. If you hear it at the wrong time or at the wrong age, you’re never going to fucking get it. — Martin Freeman


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