survivor?

I was at a women’s health fair this past weekend and I stopped by the domestic violence/sexual assault prevention and support booth. I picked up little ribbons that signified support and somehow ended up telling the women there that I had PTSD from being abused. This was a big step for me. One to admit it out loud and two to tell someone else. What happened next though stunned me more and it’s something I have been left thinking about since then.

The woman who runs the center responded to my telling her of my history by saying – “oh you’re a survivor!”. This completely stopped me in my tracks. A survivor? Me. No certainly not. I don’t deserve to have that title. Plus to say you are a survivor means that you had to have survived something significant. Yes I was abused and yes I’m here but survived it…that makes it sound like it was important or something.

I have a hard time wrapping my head around these facts. Denial? Yes, most defiantly. I’ve been in enough therapy to know it when I see it. I don’t know if I’m ready to look at my past and see it for what it was. At times I am. I can sometimes say parts of it out loud like I did initially to the woman but then I balk and retreat away from my story.

I’m closer to accepting it and being able to process it in therapy than I ever have been before. Perhaps it’s time to start that work. I’ve done very little trauma work..  And so I leave for Wichita in a few hours (psychiatrist, dietitian and therapist) and perhaps today in my session I’ll start talking.  And if I go in with at least somewhat of the beginnings of the belief that I am a survivor it will go that much better.

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3 responses to “survivor?

  1. Don’t care for what the world thinks. Be proud of yourself 🙂

  2. You most definitely are a survivor Kate! In every sense of the word. I hope therapy goes well for you. If you would like to be included as a viewer of our blog, just request access, if you want, I mean. We’d love if you did! http://manyofus1980.com/

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  3. Mary

    Oh, Kate – I do hope that you got to talk this one through. Everyone has significant moments that they go through, but I would definitely classify yours as a survival one and you have survived and you continue to grow and as you open, you become a true survivor by sharing that all with us. Love you!

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